2 March 2016

child sex abuse — recorded or not
ethan edwards

We care a lot more about what we see than what we don't.

23 February 2016

pedophiles need to avoid more than sex
ethan edwards

I realize many people are uncomfortable with the idea of pedophiles having friendships with children at all. They think of those cases where it can lead on to sexual abuse, either as a result of a carefully laid "grooming" plan or as an impulsive decision that transforms an affectionate situation into...

5 February 2016

saving kids from cp
ethan edwards

We want kids protected from child pornography - both as victims and as users

2 February 2016

if police lie, are they the enemy?
ethan edwards

I've reluctantly concluded that in the US, to the extent I have to assume the police lie to me or my fellow citizens, they have become the Enemy.

26 January 2016

review: lamb - the movie and book
ethan edwards

Although I believe the law is too blunt an instrument to properly intervene in non-sexual friendships between men and children, Lamb shows the emotional dangers.

22 January 2016

thought moralists on sexual attraction
ethan edwards

I got to thinking about this issue when a radio show host was saying that adult male attraction to 16-year-olds was positively sick and perverted. He presented it as something obvious — not a controversial conclusion he had reached that might need some support.

10 January 2016

discuss: looking at cp is not a victimless crime
ethan edwards

I started debating this question privately with someone recently, and thought I'd address it publicly here.

1 January 2016

private sexual satisfaction is good
ethan edwards

In my last postlast post I argued that once erroneous beliefs about pedophilic desire are corrected, a cascade of bad consequences can be corrected and eliminated.

29 December 2015

the cascade from yuck
ethan edwards

Adult-child sexual activity is prohibited by society for excellent reasons, and an emotional revulsion at the idea is appropriate. There is also an emotional revulsion at the idea of adult attraction to children and the pedophiles who feel it. This may arise from correlated (false) beliefs: Almost all...

12 November 2015

regret of early sex in "diary of a teenage girl"
ethan edwards

The early sex was ultimately a serious obstacle to be overcome, not a simple early pleasure.

5 November 2015

review of "pedal" by chelsea rooney
ethan edwards

There is space for children to not be victimized, but there is no space for pedophiles to think that gives them the right to do sexual things with kids that they perceive to be willing.

1 November 2015

on stopitnow — vengeance still lurks
ethan edwards

The StopItNow campaign modules get to the point where a person has stopped looking at CP, and they can congratulate themselves. It does not address what a person should do about images they have stored on their computer.

17 October 2015

critique of stopitnow's anti-cp campaign
ethan edwards

StopItNow's Anti-CP campaign is an online resource to help people take practical steps to stop using CP. As such, it is great. The fact that it is online and anonymous means people are more likely to access it, and avoid the shame and anxiety inherent in a telephone call of having to admit their attraction...

10 October 2015

can you trust stopitnow's anti-cp campaign?
ethan edwards

The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules that can be accessed anonymously. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat

3 October 2015

religious social conservatives and pedophilia
ethan edwards

In my online explorations, I hear different reactions to virtuous or celibate pedophiles.

1 October 2015

todd nickerson's salon.com articles
ethan edwards

I'm not writing in this blog very often these days. But here's a highlight that's well worth an entry.

1 September 2015

truly universal suffrage: lowering the voting age to zero
ethan edwards

I argue with pro-contact pedophiles online, and many of them are into "youth liberation". While there's no necessary connection between them, it is a natural link. If minors should be allowed to make far more decisions for themselves, one decision they might make is to engage in sexual activity with...

2 August 2015

a dangerous persons registry
ethan edwards

I'm strongly opposed to the sex offender registry. The hatred of sex offenders means men are listed for life for such crimes as having sex with a 15-year-old girlfriend when they're 19 or downloading CP.

28 July 2015

the psychopath whisperer by kent kiehl
ethan edwards

One of my messages all along has been that child sexual abuse should have its penalties in line with other crimes that cause similar harm. The truth is I don't know much detail about the criminal justice system, and reading this book was part of trying to remedy that.

19 July 2015

the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender
ethan edwards

I usually write about pedophilia. But in the title of this post I use the phrase "non-pedophilic non-offender". Haven't I just described "ordinary people"?

14 July 2015

the neglected older pedophile
ethan edwards

With some regularity, we at Virtuous Pedophiles are approached by journalists hoping to find a pedophile to interview. Out of the hundreds of members who are active, there are often many to choose from. What do the journalists want?

15 May 2015

compassion for cp viewers
ethan edwards

I have written a lot about CP, but in this post I'd like to focus on the person (usually a man) who is actually watching the CP. What's going through his head, in general and at the time? This is based to some extent on reports from real pedophiles who have been in this position.

12 May 2015

two audiences: pedophiles and public
ethan edwards

My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all.

8 May 2015

transforming society to allow adult-child sex?
ethan edwards

Central to the pro-contact position is the idea that if only societal laws and attitudes would change, adult-child sex could be reasonably common and a happy experience for all.

4 May 2015

when the girl is 13 instead of 8
ethan edwards

In my last post I laid out a strong case for why adult sex with 8-year-olds is always wrong. What changes when the girl is 13 years old, well into puberty?

2 May 2015

costs and benefits for prepubescents
ethan edwards

This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument.

27 April 2015

sex is special
ethan edwards

Sex is essential to reproduction. It is no surprise that men and women are strongly motivated to have sex. Evolutionary psychology has a good story to tell about the finer points of human sexuality too.

24 April 2015

the failure of absolutes
ethan edwards

Certain things in life can be stated as absolutes. It is easy to find examples in the realm of mathematics or logic: All rectangles are polygons. All humans are mammals.

17 April 2015

the political disaster of the pro-contact view
ethan edwards

The pro-contact position is inherently wrong — it is not possible or desirable to transform society to approve of adult-child sexual activity. I have not made that argument yet. But even once I do, it is not going to get most pro-contact pedophiles to abandon their position. Arguments never do.

13 April 2015

pro-contact and anti-contact pedophiles
ethan edwards

There is among pedophiles a major division. The pro-contact pedophiles feel that adult-child sexual contact is fundamentally OK. The anti-contact pedophiles feel it is fundamentally not OK.

24 December 2014

pulling cp apart — other aspects
ethan edwards

So far I've looked at the child's visible reaction in CP, and the activity that is being shown.

21 December 2014

pulling cp apart — the activity
ethan edwards

Near one extreme, CP captures a child being penetrated vaginally or anally by an adult penis. When we consider the milder end, I would like to broaden the topic to include anything that someone might find erotic, and leave aside its legality — something that varies over time and jurisdiction.

19 December 2014

pulling cp apart — the child's reaction
ethan edwards

Note: In this series of posts I'm going to describe sexual situations explicitly. You have been warned.

18 December 2014

more on cp — preparing to go digging
ethan edwards

I knew I had written a lot of posts on CP, but my index showed me just how many.

21 November 2014

playing life in expert mode
ethan edwards

The Virtuous Pedophiles support group naturally has many young men in it, some of them fairly nerdy.

17 November 2014

benefits to less shame around sex — both wanted and unwanted
ethan edwards

Among social liberals, sex is agreed to be one of the great pleasures of life. Sex between (or among) consenting adults is just fine. We do have some societal rules about privacy, but there is no need to surround sex with shame. Far too many people have been taught otherwise, but they as individuals...

14 November 2014

pedophilia and suicide
ethan edwards

It has been noted that people who face charges for CP possession or sexual molestation of a child commit suicide pretty often, though I'm not aware of any studies that have been large enough to allow statistical tests. Here is one reference from Malaysia of suicide among those facing charges. This...

We care a lot more about what we see than what we don't.

I realize many people are uncomfortable with the idea of pedophiles having friendships with children at all. They think of those cases where it can lead on to sexual abuse, either as a result of a carefully laid "grooming" plan or as an impulsive decision that transforms an affectionate situation into...

We want kids protected from child pornography - both as victims and as users

I've reluctantly concluded that in the US, to the extent I have to assume the police lie to me or my fellow citizens, they have become the Enemy.

Although I believe the law is too blunt an instrument to properly intervene in non-sexual friendships between men and children, Lamb shows the emotional dangers.

I got to thinking about this issue when a radio show host was saying that adult male attraction to 16-year-olds was positively sick and perverted. He presented it as something obvious — not a controversial conclusion he had reached that might need some support.

I started debating this question privately with someone recently, and thought I'd address it publicly here.

In my last postlast post I argued that once erroneous beliefs about pedophilic desire are corrected, a cascade of bad consequences can be corrected and eliminated.

Adult-child sexual activity is prohibited by society for excellent reasons, and an emotional revulsion at the idea is appropriate. There is also an emotional revulsion at the idea of adult attraction to children and the pedophiles who feel it. This may arise from correlated (false) beliefs: Almost all...

The early sex was ultimately a serious obstacle to be overcome, not a simple early pleasure.

There is space for children to not be victimized, but there is no space for pedophiles to think that gives them the right to do sexual things with kids that they perceive to be willing.

The StopItNow campaign modules get to the point where a person has stopped looking at CP, and they can congratulate themselves. It does not address what a person should do about images they have stored on their computer.

StopItNow's Anti-CP campaign is an online resource to help people take practical steps to stop using CP. As such, it is great. The fact that it is online and anonymous means people are more likely to access it, and avoid the shame and anxiety inherent in a telephone call of having to admit their attraction...

The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules that can be accessed anonymously. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat

In my online explorations, I hear different reactions to virtuous or celibate pedophiles.

I'm not writing in this blog very often these days. But here's a highlight that's well worth an entry.

I argue with pro-contact pedophiles online, and many of them are into "youth liberation". While there's no necessary connection between them, it is a natural link. If minors should be allowed to make far more decisions for themselves, one decision they might make is to engage in sexual activity with...

I'm strongly opposed to the sex offender registry. The hatred of sex offenders means men are listed for life for such crimes as having sex with a 15-year-old girlfriend when they're 19 or downloading CP.

One of my messages all along has been that child sexual abuse should have its penalties in line with other crimes that cause similar harm. The truth is I don't know much detail about the criminal justice system, and reading this book was part of trying to remedy that.

I usually write about pedophilia. But in the title of this post I use the phrase "non-pedophilic non-offender". Haven't I just described "ordinary people"?

With some regularity, we at Virtuous Pedophiles are approached by journalists hoping to find a pedophile to interview. Out of the hundreds of members who are active, there are often many to choose from. What do the journalists want?

I have written a lot about CP, but in this post I'd like to focus on the person (usually a man) who is actually watching the CP. What's going through his head, in general and at the time? This is based to some extent on reports from real pedophiles who have been in this position.

My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all.

Central to the pro-contact position is the idea that if only societal laws and attitudes would change, adult-child sex could be reasonably common and a happy experience for all.

In my last post I laid out a strong case for why adult sex with 8-year-olds is always wrong. What changes when the girl is 13 years old, well into puberty?

This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument.

Sex is essential to reproduction. It is no surprise that men and women are strongly motivated to have sex. Evolutionary psychology has a good story to tell about the finer points of human sexuality too.

Certain things in life can be stated as absolutes. It is easy to find examples in the realm of mathematics or logic: All rectangles are polygons. All humans are mammals.

The pro-contact position is inherently wrong — it is not possible or desirable to transform society to approve of adult-child sexual activity. I have not made that argument yet. But even once I do, it is not going to get most pro-contact pedophiles to abandon their position. Arguments never do.

There is among pedophiles a major division. The pro-contact pedophiles feel that adult-child sexual contact is fundamentally OK. The anti-contact pedophiles feel it is fundamentally not OK.

So far I've looked at the child's visible reaction in CP, and the activity that is being shown.

Near one extreme, CP captures a child being penetrated vaginally or anally by an adult penis. When we consider the milder end, I would like to broaden the topic to include anything that someone might find erotic, and leave aside its legality — something that varies over time and jurisdiction.

Note: In this series of posts I'm going to describe sexual situations explicitly. You have been warned.

I knew I had written a lot of posts on CP, but my index showed me just how many.

The Virtuous Pedophiles support group naturally has many young men in it, some of them fairly nerdy.

Among social liberals, sex is agreed to be one of the great pleasures of life. Sex between (or among) consenting adults is just fine. We do have some societal rules about privacy, but there is no need to surround sex with shame. Far too many people have been taught otherwise, but they as individuals...

It has been noted that people who face charges for CP possession or sexual molestation of a child commit suicide pretty often, though I'm not aware of any studies that have been large enough to allow statistical tests. Here is one reference from Malaysia of suicide among those facing charges. This...

the p word is a collection of 256 articles, blogs and podcasts in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from mainstream social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.

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the p word is a collection of 256 articles, blogs and podcasts in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from mainstream social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.

editor at the p word net

All images are AI and do not depict real people.