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| |  | | 27 July 2020
lessons from reviewing books on pedophilia
ethan edwards I have been reviewing books about pedophiles off and on since I began this blog six years ago. Today I am going to look at them all together, in search of patterns. |
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| |  | | 14 December 2019
men not attracted to 13yo girls? ha!
ethan edwards Pedophilia as the scientists use the term is an attraction to prepubescent children. It is rare. Most straight men see a 6-year-old girl and do not feel any significant sexual interest. |
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| | | | 14 June 2018
pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner
ethan edwards This post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible). |
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| |  | | 6 March 2017
the iq deficit of pedo abusers may not transfer to the celibate
ethan edwards Research on pedophiles has suggested that we differ from ordinary peoplein a variety of non-flattering ways . The implications of being short or left-handed are obvious and not very serious for a person's self-concept. But IQ is more central to a person's self-worth, and the claimed deficit bothers... |
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| | | | 3 April 2016
to every thing a season: objectifying people
ethan edwards A loud feminist complaint in society is that men objectify women and view them as sex objects. Women want instead to be treated as full people with talents, opinions, and aspirations, just like men. I believe that in general men will instinctively evaluate women with regard to their attractiveness regardless... |
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| |  | | 22 January 2016
"thought moralists" on sexual attraction
ethan edwards I got to thinking about this issue when a radio show host was saying that adult male attraction to 16-year-olds was positively sick and perverted. He presented it as something obvious — not a controversial conclusion he had reached that might need some support. |
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| | | | 15 May 2015
compassion for cp viewers
ethan edwards I have written a lot about CP, but in this post I'd like to focus on the person (usually a man) who is actually watching the CP. What's going through his head, in general and at the time? This is based to some extent on reports from real pedophiles who have been in this position. |
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| | | | 2 May 2015
costs and benefits for prepubescents
ethan edwards This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument. |
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| | | | 26 September 2014
how does cp viewing affect contact offending?
ethan edwards The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of... |
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| | | | 28 August 2014
pedophilia and parenthood - a cautious yes
ethan edwards In my last post I traced how some pedophiles end up married. Should they become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction, even if they are otherwise sympathetic to celibate pedophiles. |
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| |  | | 11 July 2014
civil libertarians must accept celibate pedophilia
ethan edwards I made my two previous posts "Pedophilia isn't chosen and can't be changed" and "Celibate pedophiles are common" when I did because of the support they give to this post. |
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27 July 2020
lessons from reviewing books on pedophilia
ethan edwards I have been reviewing books about pedophiles off and on since I began this blog six years ago. Today I am going to look at them all together, in search of patterns. |
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14 December 2019
men not attracted to 13yo girls? ha!
ethan edwards Pedophilia as the scientists use the term is an attraction to prepubescent children. It is rare. Most straight men see a 6-year-old girl and do not feel any significant sexual interest. |
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14 June 2018
pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner
ethan edwards This post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible). |
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6 March 2017
the iq deficit of pedo abusers may not transfer to the celibate
ethan edwards Research on pedophiles has suggested that we differ from ordinary peoplein a variety of non-flattering ways . The implications of being short or left-handed are obvious and not very serious for a person's self-concept. But IQ is more central to a person's self-worth, and the claimed deficit bothers... |
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3 April 2016
to every thing a season: objectifying people
ethan edwards A loud feminist complaint in society is that men objectify women and view them as sex objects. Women want instead to be treated as full people with talents, opinions, and aspirations, just like men. I believe that in general men will instinctively evaluate women with regard to their attractiveness regardless... |
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22 January 2016
"thought moralists" on sexual attraction
ethan edwards I got to thinking about this issue when a radio show host was saying that adult male attraction to 16-year-olds was positively sick and perverted. He presented it as something obvious — not a controversial conclusion he had reached that might need some support. |
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15 May 2015
compassion for cp viewers
ethan edwards I have written a lot about CP, but in this post I'd like to focus on the person (usually a man) who is actually watching the CP. What's going through his head, in general and at the time? This is based to some extent on reports from real pedophiles who have been in this position. |
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2 May 2015
costs and benefits for prepubescents
ethan edwards This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument. |
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26 September 2014
how does cp viewing affect contact offending?
ethan edwards The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of... |
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28 August 2014
pedophilia and parenthood - a cautious yes
ethan edwards In my last post I traced how some pedophiles end up married. Should they become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction, even if they are otherwise sympathetic to celibate pedophiles. |
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11 July 2014
civil libertarians must accept celibate pedophilia
ethan edwards I made my two previous posts "Pedophilia isn't chosen and can't be changed" and "Celibate pedophiles are common" when I did because of the support they give to this post. |
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| | | | 8 August 2023
pedophiles choosing to work with children
ethan edwards This long post has several sections: |
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| | | | 11 April 2023
fantasies of adult-child sex disgust even the sex-positive public
ethan edwards The public is enraged at child sexual abuse, of course. A great many pedophiles are too. The public is also enraged by abuse that is recorded and distributed. That is CP (CSAM). They are enraged not just by the making CSAM, but by the idea that anyone might look at it for the purposes of sexual arousal... |
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| | | | 11 April 2023
how can you want to keep an attraction you can never act on?
ethan edwards The message that is most often offered in defense of celibate pedophiles is that they have an attraction they did not choose and cannot change, but they can and do control their behavior. Controlling behavior is essential to the very concept. The other two are a way of building sympathy. OK, the pedophile... |
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| | | | 23 August 2022
professionals might be won over even if public is not
ethan edwards One of the key messages of Virtuous Pedophiles from the start was "Lots of pedophiles never molest children". A small portion of the public understands this and quickly adopts a more accepting attitude. |
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| | | | 30 June 2022
taxonomy of pedophiles and public
ethan edwards "Virtuous Pedophiles" just passed the 10th anniversary of its founding. As one of two co-founders (with Nick Devin) I've been there from the beginning. I haven't been as active in taking new initiatives or joining public debates as I was in the early days. But I've been listening for the entire 10 years,... |
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| | | | 2 April 2022
one group of sympathetic pedophiles might be enough?
ethan edwards Improving the situation of celibate pedophiles requires changing hearts and minds of non-pedophiles ("nons"). These nons cover a spectrum. |
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| | | | 18 January 2022
the chasm between celibate pedophiles and acceptance
ethan edwards Part A, Emotional Challenge |
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| | | | 7 June 2021
counting the distressed cp victims
ethan edwards I have long been in favor of making simple CP possession legal on civil liberties grounds. One of the counterarguments is the effect on children (often grown to adulthood) who are in CP videos. If possession is legal, more people would watch them, adding to the distress of those victims. I have no doubt... |
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| | | | 29 May 2021
anti-pedophile restrictions — attitudes or technology?
ethan edwards When I first emerged online as Ethan Edwards, in 2012, I took many things for granted. Now, nine years later, restrictions and limits have been placed on many of those things. |
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| | | | 7 May 2021
accepting law-abiding pedophiles (v2): five stages of grief — improved version
ethan edwards Who would keep an old version of a post when posting a new one? Maybe a pack rat. Here is what I hope is an improved, more carefully thought-out version of "Accepting Law-abiding Pedophiles: Five Stages of Grief". |
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| | | | 10 April 2021
accepting law-abiding pedophiles: five stages of grief
ethan edwards In the classic formulation, there are five stages a person goes through in adjusting to a painful loss: |
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| | | | 24 March 2021
taking stock of progress by anti-legalization pedophiles
ethan edwards In June of 2012, nearly 9 years ago, Nick Devin and I launched the website Virtuous Pedophiles. We got some interest from media and progressive scientists who study pedophilia. The interest has lessened along with the novelty, but it has not disappeared. They perceived us as something new. We were pedophiles... |
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| | | | 13 March 2021
the pluses of denial of pedophilia
ethan edwards Virtuous Pedophiles... Surely our message is: Come forward! Don't be ashamed of who you are! Let the hidden pedophiles know there are others like them so they too can come forward! |
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| | | | 3 September 2020
private sexual thoughts do not violate a child's rights
ethan edwards Just about everyone agrees that the making of CP is a terrible thing and rightly classified as a serious crime. |
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| | | | 15 August 2020
critique of michael harris on "the worst epidemic"
ethan edwards Michael Harris made a lengthy podcast called ["The Worst Epidemic"](https://samharris.org/podcasts/213-worst-epidemic/). This worst epidemic is allegedly that of CP images on the web. His guest is Gabriel Dance, one author of a couple New York Times pieces on this same subject in 2019. |
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| | | | 3 August 2020
my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2
ethan edwards I made a post with this title on 6/10/2018. This is an update, two years later. |
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| | | | 27 July 2020
lessons from reviewing books on pedophilia
ethan edwards I have been reviewing books about pedophiles off and on since I began this blog six years ago. Today I am going to look at them all together, in search of patterns. |
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| | | | 26 July 2020
review of "dream children"
ethan edwards This book by A.N. Wilson has an "old" style that is rare in the modern novels I read — an intricate use of language. I had to slow down to read it, and I can find a certain pleasure in the style. As for deeper connections, I'm the sort of guy who got Bs and Cs in literature courses, and leave it to... |
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8 August 2023
pedophiles choosing to work with children
ethan edwards This long post has several sections: |
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11 April 2023
fantasies of adult-child sex disgust even the sex-positive public
ethan edwards The public is enraged at child sexual abuse, of course. A great many pedophiles are too. The public is also enraged by abuse that is recorded and distributed. That is CP (CSAM). They are enraged not just by the making CSAM, but by the idea that anyone might look at it for the purposes of sexual arousal... |
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11 April 2023
how can you want to keep an attraction you can never act on?
ethan edwards The message that is most often offered in defense of celibate pedophiles is that they have an attraction they did not choose and cannot change, but they can and do control their behavior. Controlling behavior is essential to the very concept. The other two are a way of building sympathy. OK, the pedophile... |
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23 August 2022
professionals might be won over even if public is not
ethan edwards One of the key messages of Virtuous Pedophiles from the start was "Lots of pedophiles never molest children". A small portion of the public understands this and quickly adopts a more accepting attitude. |
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30 June 2022
taxonomy of pedophiles and public
ethan edwards "Virtuous Pedophiles" just passed the 10th anniversary of its founding. As one of two co-founders (with Nick Devin) I've been there from the beginning. I haven't been as active in taking new initiatives or joining public debates as I was in the early days. But I've been listening for the entire 10 years,... |
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2 April 2022
one group of sympathetic pedophiles might be enough?
ethan edwards Improving the situation of celibate pedophiles requires changing hearts and minds of non-pedophiles ("nons"). These nons cover a spectrum. |
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18 January 2022
the chasm between celibate pedophiles and acceptance
ethan edwards Part A, Emotional Challenge |
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7 June 2021
counting the distressed cp victims
ethan edwards I have long been in favor of making simple CP possession legal on civil liberties grounds. One of the counterarguments is the effect on children (often grown to adulthood) who are in CP videos. If possession is legal, more people would watch them, adding to the distress of those victims. I have no doubt... |
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29 May 2021
anti-pedophile restrictions — attitudes or technology?
ethan edwards When I first emerged online as Ethan Edwards, in 2012, I took many things for granted. Now, nine years later, restrictions and limits have been placed on many of those things. |
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7 May 2021
accepting law-abiding pedophiles (v2): five stages of grief — improved version
ethan edwards Who would keep an old version of a post when posting a new one? Maybe a pack rat. Here is what I hope is an improved, more carefully thought-out version of "Accepting Law-abiding Pedophiles: Five Stages of Grief". |
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10 April 2021
accepting law-abiding pedophiles: five stages of grief
ethan edwards In the classic formulation, there are five stages a person goes through in adjusting to a painful loss: |
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24 March 2021
taking stock of progress by anti-legalization pedophiles
ethan edwards In June of 2012, nearly 9 years ago, Nick Devin and I launched the website Virtuous Pedophiles. We got some interest from media and progressive scientists who study pedophilia. The interest has lessened along with the novelty, but it has not disappeared. They perceived us as something new. We were pedophiles... |
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13 March 2021
the pluses of denial of pedophilia
ethan edwards Virtuous Pedophiles... Surely our message is: Come forward! Don't be ashamed of who you are! Let the hidden pedophiles know there are others like them so they too can come forward! |
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3 September 2020
private sexual thoughts do not violate a child's rights
ethan edwards Just about everyone agrees that the making of CP is a terrible thing and rightly classified as a serious crime. |
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15 August 2020
critique of michael harris on "the worst epidemic"
ethan edwards Michael Harris made a lengthy podcast called ["The Worst Epidemic"](https://samharris.org/podcasts/213-worst-epidemic/). This worst epidemic is allegedly that of CP images on the web. His guest is Gabriel Dance, one author of a couple New York Times pieces on this same subject in 2019. |
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3 August 2020
my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2
ethan edwards I made a post with this title on 6/10/2018. This is an update, two years later. |
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27 July 2020
lessons from reviewing books on pedophilia
ethan edwards I have been reviewing books about pedophiles off and on since I began this blog six years ago. Today I am going to look at them all together, in search of patterns. |
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26 July 2020
review of "dream children"
ethan edwards This book by A.N. Wilson has an "old" style that is rare in the modern novels I read — an intricate use of language. I had to slow down to read it, and I can find a certain pleasure in the style. As for deeper connections, I'm the sort of guy who got Bs and Cs in literature courses, and leave it to... |
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