thread: why are we anonymous?

thread: why are we anonymous?

26 June 2018    
from twitter and bluesky threads

bly 

 

Surely if we want to campaign, we should come out and deanonymise? It's not so easy.

 


Thread: Why do anti-contact, never-offended MAPs use anonymous identities online? We've done nothing wrong, so we should be able to come out with our real names, right? >


> The answer for me is partly about the effects on myself but as much about the effects on other people.

(1) Certainly, any out pedophile (even if never offending) can expect to lose their job, as employers protect their reputations (which they could probably do with indemnity) >


> (2) You have to find somewhere to live where you're hopeful local vigilantes or angry people will bot be able to assault you.

(3) If you have a partner and an extended family, whether you stay with them or not, you can't be sure your decision won't negatively affect them. >


(4) Your extended family might include young people who could do without the stress of people knowing their relative is a MAP.

(5) You expose everyone you ever knew to a period of wondering what they should have done (either for or against you). >


(6) In seeking to establish a blameless reputation in a world that doesn't want to hear that from a pedophile, you encourage hundreds of internet warriors to lie about you, and people from your past to consider dealing with their new ambivalence about you >


> and their fear of being associated with you by demonising you in public (which is easy to understand).

Against all these downsides, the upside is you no longer live a lie, though you cannot undo any collateral damage from the lie's ending. >


> Some people have been forced out by doxxing, others in the future perhaps will be brave enough to declare themselves MAP under their real life identities.

However, I hope those sceptical of our motivations for anonymity can acknowledge this bind we're in. ||


 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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the first time i didn't view child pornography
bly

Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

 
 
 
interview: elliott returns
elliott bateman

Elliott and Candice discuss what has changed for him in the past year since coming on our podcast for the first time, including how his relationship with his mother has changed, all the support he has received and his love for helping other MAPs in need.

 
 
 
lawful good: writing a nomap character
tom jones

As I wrote the scenes where his attractions are revealed, it was my own coming out story all over again.