Surely if we want to campaign, we should come out and deanonymise? It's not so easy.

Thread: Why do anti-contact, never-offended MAPs use anonymous identities online? We've done nothing wrong, so we should be able to come out with our real names, right? >

> The answer for me is partly about the effects on myself but as much about the effects on other people.

(1) Certainly, any out pedophile (even if never offending) can expect to lose their job, as employers protect their reputations (which they could probably do with indemnity) >

> (2) You have to find somewhere to live where you're hopeful local vigilantes or angry people will bot be able to assault you.

(3) If you have a partner and an extended family, whether you stay with them or not, you can't be sure your decision won't negatively affect them. >

(4) Your extended family might include young people who could do without the stress of people knowing their relative is a MAP.

(5) You expose everyone you ever knew to a period of wondering what they should have done (either for or against you). >

(6) In seeking to establish a blameless reputation in a world that doesn't want to hear that from a pedophile, you encourage hundreds of internet warriors to lie about you, and people from your past to consider dealing with their new ambivalence about you >

> and their fear of being associated with you by demonising you in public (which is easy to understand).

Against all these downsides, the upside is you no longer live a lie, though you cannot undo any collateral damage from the lie's ending. >

> Some people have been forced out by doxxing, others in the future perhaps will be brave enough to declare themselves MAP under their real life identities.

However, I hope those sceptical of our motivations for anonymity can acknowledge this bind we're in. ||

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victimless?

nitro: a community says goodbye

emma, a female pedophile

ethan edwards

Suppose we (temporarily) turn away from what is legal and what isn't and address only what is right and wrong?

virped members

Nitro, who has died aged 73, is remembered by members of the VirPed community.

emma artless

When I first joined and I did see that there were testimonials and stories from other women who had grown up with the same experience as me, I actually started crying.

Suppose we (temporarily) turn away from what is legal and what isn't and address only what is right and wrong?

Nitro, who has died aged 73, is remembered by members of the VirPed community.

When I first joined and I did see that there were testimonials and stories from other women who had grown up with the same experience as me, I actually started crying.