I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed child sexual abuse material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing.

I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed child sexual abuse material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing.

1 December 2019

we have to protect children, even the ones you hate
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A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.

29 March 2019

thread: a new pedophile was just born
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A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?

5 March 2019

attraction is not action
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In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.

A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.

A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?

In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.

Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.

Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

12 May 2025

map fallacy 2: porn fallacy
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Why do people believe that all MAPs use illegal material?

10 May 2025

map fallacy 1: molester fallacy
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Why do people believe that all MAPs are child molesters when it isn't true?

8 May 2025

the map fallacy: introduction
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Introduction to a series of posts looking at popular myths about pedophiles/MAPs

6 May 2025

never say die: the hard rules of suicide and map talk
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We deal with the topic of suicide similarly to the topic of pedophilia: denial, pre-formed narratives and a fear of listening to details of the truth.

4 May 2025

two way mirror: pedophiles coming out to one another
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Two people simultaneously and silently ask, I'm one of the good ones, but are you?

2 May 2025

the rest of the list
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A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?

1 April 2025

is pedophilia an orientation or a disorder?
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The key question that public and experts are debating to understand the nature of attraction to children.

4 March 2025

two pedophiles; one moral binary; no dogs
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I'd give a lot for a crime-free thriller instead, but No Dogs Allowed tells a lot of truth about a young pedophile's life

11 February 2025

a minor pedophile reached out... into the wild west
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So I sought out people like me. I would go on those sketchy teen/tween chat rooms, explaining that I was a minor looking for someone to talk to.

31 December 2024

what we tried to say on bluesky and twitter
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VirPed's accounts have been banned (twice) from Twitter and once from BlueSky. We had one main thing to say...

18 October 2021

a short bright elucidation
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A review of A Long Dark Shadow: Minor Attracted People and Their Pursuit of Dignity by Allyn Walker

9 September 2021

reviews: safe from harm and let's talk: child sexual abuse
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A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia

23 April 2021

childlike self-concepts, pt. 1: an anecdotal introduction
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Academics have begun to study autopedophilia, with a focus on sexual arousal from the idea of being childlike. But there's a much broader phenomenon going on here, and I'm right in the middle of it.

15 July 2020

thread: risk or risk factor?
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Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.

2 July 2020

thread: window shoppers and thieves
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People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.

26 April 2020

thread: could pedophiles appear on stage?
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Representation for us is very difficult in film or using our own identities. Could theatre have a solution?

21 April 2020

thread: things you're overlooking
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Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...

12 April 2020

thread: the narrative of situational offenders
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Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?

11 April 2020

thread: welcome, pandemic maps!
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Advice based on three years of social media maptivism.

12 February 2020

autopedophilia and ageplay
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I would say the group I consider myself part of, is people who are emotionally or sexually drawn to the idea of identifying with or identifying as if a minor.

4 January 2020

thread: are prevention programmes effective?
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Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?

1 December 2019

we have to protect children, even the ones you hate
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A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.

15 November 2019

thread: autopedophilia and pedophilia
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Is there a difference between being attracted to a child and wanting to be a child? Yes. But there is also overlap.

28 October 2019

thread: normalizing pedophilia?
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The term "normalization" has come to mean "shut up" when used against us on social media.

9 October 2019

thread: why don't anti-cs talk about the age of consent?
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It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.

29 September 2019

past the dark facts
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A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field

20 September 2019

thread: what rights do pedophiles lack?
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Don't pedophiles already have all the rights they need?

23 June 2019

thread: mutual coming out is hard
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It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.

13 May 2019

thread: normalization? hardly
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People both overestimate our influence and underestimate our humanity.

4 May 2019

thread: pedo-hunters
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Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?

Why do people believe that all MAPs use illegal material?

Why do people believe that all MAPs are child molesters when it isn't true?

Introduction to a series of posts looking at popular myths about pedophiles/MAPs

We deal with the topic of suicide similarly to the topic of pedophilia: denial, pre-formed narratives and a fear of listening to details of the truth.

Two people simultaneously and silently ask, I'm one of the good ones, but are you?

A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?

The key question that public and experts are debating to understand the nature of attraction to children.

I'd give a lot for a crime-free thriller instead, but No Dogs Allowed tells a lot of truth about a young pedophile's life

So I sought out people like me. I would go on those sketchy teen/tween chat rooms, explaining that I was a minor looking for someone to talk to.

VirPed's accounts have been banned (twice) from Twitter and once from BlueSky. We had one main thing to say...

A review of A Long Dark Shadow: Minor Attracted People and Their Pursuit of Dignity by Allyn Walker

A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia

Academics have begun to study autopedophilia, with a focus on sexual arousal from the idea of being childlike. But there's a much broader phenomenon going on here, and I'm right in the middle of it.

Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.

People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.

Representation for us is very difficult in film or using our own identities. Could theatre have a solution?

Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...

Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?

Advice based on three years of social media maptivism.

I would say the group I consider myself part of, is people who are emotionally or sexually drawn to the idea of identifying with or identifying as if a minor.

Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?

A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.

Is there a difference between being attracted to a child and wanting to be a child? Yes. But there is also overlap.

The term "normalization" has come to mean "shut up" when used against us on social media.

It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.

A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field

Don't pedophiles already have all the rights they need?

It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.

People both overestimate our influence and underestimate our humanity.

Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?

the p word is a collection of 316 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.

editor at the p word net

Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.

the p word is a collection of 316 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.

editor at the p word net

Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.