Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...

Things you're overlooking when you yell "get help"...

~ You don't know what help is available
~ You don't know what it consists of
~ You don't know what it can and can't achieve
~ You don't know who is in need of it and to what extent
~ You don't know who you're talking to

Things you're overlooking when you yell, "it isn't normal!"...

~ Normal isn't a synonym for "morally OK"
~ If someone isn't normal, pointing that out adds nothing to solving anyone's problems.
~ Everyone has a normality, and those can include things that aren't normal for others

Things you're overlooking when you yell, "stay away from kids!"

~ There are kids everywhere
~ Many MAPs are themselves still kids and at school
~ Many people have kid relatives
~ The important thing is that you behave responsibly if you're going to encounter them

About the author: I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing.

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Elliott and Candice discuss what has changed for him in the past year since coming on our podcast for the first time, including how his relationship with his mother has changed, all the support he has received and his love for helping other MAPs in need.

Listen to former pastor and current recovery coach Shane Montgomery as he talks to Candice about his past sex offense, being a sex/porn/love addict and the importance of having a solid recovery plan (not just prayer) to keep oneself safe in their community.

After 10 years of Virtuous Pedophiles, what has it revealed about different attitudes toward pedophilia?