of monsters and mirrors

ender wiggin 

9 October 2015    
from pedophiles about pedophilia


 

Part of what inspired me, was this deep desire that before I died, I would make some mirrors so that kids like me might see themselves reflected back.

 

In my previous post, I mentioned how young LGBT teens these days have quite a few role models to look up to, but how those who discover they’re sexually attracted to children have no such thing. I came across this quote today that basically expresses what I think is what so many of us feel when growing up and coming to terms with our attractions:

«You guys know about vampires? … You know, vampires have no reflection in a mirror? There’s this idea that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. And what I’ve always thought isn’t that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. It’s that if you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves. And growing up, I felt like a monster in some ways. I didn’t see myself reflected at all. I was like “Yo, is something wrong with me? That the whole society seems to think people like me don’t exist?” And part of what inspired me, was this deep desire that before I died, I would make a couple of mirrors. That I would make some mirrors so that kids like me might see themselves reflected back and might not feel so monstrous for it.»

— Junot Diaz

If you are a young person realizing you have an attraction to children, know that you are not alone. Know that you are not a monster. Know that you can lead a meaningful life, without ever harming anyone. I hope that this blog can be a mirror in which you can see yourself reflected.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

why i do this

 

i'm a pedophile, but not a monster

 

reviews: safe from harm and let's talk: child sexual abuse

   

ender wiggin

Those who will lose their children to suicide because of this will perhaps never know why their child took his or her life

 

todd nickerson

I'm attracted to children but unwilling to act on it. Before judging me harshly, would you be willing to listen?

 

bly rede

A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia

 
 
 
why i do this
ender wiggin

Those who will lose their children to suicide because of this will perhaps never know why their child took his or her life

 
 
 
i'm a pedophile, but not a monster
todd nickerson

I'm attracted to children but unwilling to act on it. Before judging me harshly, would you be willing to listen?

 
 
 
reviews: safe from harm and let's talk: child sexual abuse
bly rede

A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia