ethics of attraction

all entries: jul 2014 to may 2025


			27 May 2025 double life anonymous One life was lived as a heterosexual non-pedophile and the other as a bisexual pedophile. I didn’t want to just break it off with her, as I didn’t want to hurt her. So, we got married.

			15 April 2025 nitro's final thoughts nitro I am a pedophile. I've made over 18,000 posts on the VirPed forum since 2015. I am dying.

			25 March 2025 life is not a decision: a pedophile parent charlie keyes I decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent

			30 September 2020 is artificial child pornography a good outlet? leonard johnston 2 of 6: Is artificial CP moral? Might it lead to more harm?

			19 July 2020 how people justify viewing child pornography (and why i don’t) leonard johnston 1 of 6: Even if you disapprove of CP, meeting other pedophiles means encountering CP users, How to deal?

			7 June 2020 pedophilia-be-gone pill ethan edwards Here's how members of the VirPed forum voted on a hypothetical pill to remove their attractions.

			25 May 2020 you, twenty years from now: setting your boundaries leonard johnston How do you live a safe life? For me, an important part is understanding and sticking to my boundaries.

			22 March 2020 a normal teenager... just a pedophile leonard johnston For some teenagers, their sexuality brings loneliness. They're not sure who they can talk to. I couldn't talk to anyone.

			8 March 2020 so you're a pedophile. now what? leonard johnston You can be a happy and morally good person, and stay true to yourself, even with these attractions.

			9 October 2019 thread: why don't anti-cs talk about the age of consent? bly It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.

			29 September 2019 past the dark facts bly A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field

			22 September 2019 what do pedophiles fantasize about? ethan edwards Our opponents feel we deserve fierce condemnation even if we will never harm a child, and seek to score points because we fantasize about something most people find disgusting.

			25 August 2019 surprise: what of two 13-year-olds having sex? ethan edwards 3. of 3. I'm in favor of letting teleiophiles (ordinary folks) figure out the right age of consent. They don't have a vested interest in the outcome.

			25 March 2019 thread: what doesn't harm kids? bly It's important to understand what really harms children so we aim to prevent the right things.

			23 March 2019 thread: where do anti-contacts come from? bly Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify.

			4 November 2018 the (not) reasons i'm anti-contact brett daywalker Instead of talking about what my reasons for being anti-contact are, I want to go into what my reasons for being anti contact aren't.

			27 October 2018 thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser? bly Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?

			7 September 2018 why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile) bly Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.

			16 January 2018 the first time i didn't view child pornography bly Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

			26 January 2016 review: lamb - the movie and book ethan edwards Although I believe the law is too blunt an instrument to properly intervene in non-sexual friendships between men and children, Lamb shows the emotional dangers.

			28 August 2014 pedophilia and parenthood ethan edwards Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction

			10 August 2014 eating the family dog ethan edwards A man is sexually attracted to young girls. He knows he will never act inappropriately with a real girl. But...

			3 August 2014 what are celibate pedophiles like? ethan edwards The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people.

			24 July 2014 what do pedophiles do? ethan edwards What is the best behaviour for pedophiles, given you don't like what we are?

			18 July 2014 who is it ok for pedophiles to fantasize about? ethan edwards Given that we are for moral reasons totally unable to express our sexuality with children, our right to private sexual fantasy would seem if anything a bit more important than for ordinary folks.

			17 July 2014 is it ok for pedophiles to fantasize? ethan edwards A pedophile who has never offended against a child and doesn't foresee a problem with offending ought to feel free to fantasize.

			11 July 2014 civil libertarians must accept celibate pedophilia ethan edwards What evidence could anyone possibly marshal to conclude that all the members of a group — one defined by their thoughts and not their actions — are sex offenders if they are undetected by anyone?

			7 July 2014 virtuous pedophiles ethan edwards An introduction to VirPed, started in 2012

			6 July 2014 fundamental beliefs ethan edwards What do anti-contact pedophiles believe?

27 May 2025

double life
anonymous

One life was lived as a heterosexual non-pedophile and the other as a bisexual pedophile. I didn’t want to just break it off with her, as I didn’t want to hurt her. So, we got married.

15 April 2025

nitro's final thoughts
nitro

I am a pedophile. I've made over 18,000 posts on the VirPed forum since 2015. I am dying.

25 March 2025

life is not a decision: a pedophile parent
charlie keyes

I decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent

30 September 2020

is artificial child pornography a good outlet?
leonard johnston

2 of 6: Is artificial CP moral? Might it lead to more harm?

19 July 2020

how people justify viewing child pornography (and why i don’t)
leonard johnston

1 of 6: Even if you disapprove of CP, meeting other pedophiles means encountering CP users, How to deal?

7 June 2020

pedophilia-be-gone pill
ethan edwards

Here's how members of the VirPed forum voted on a hypothetical pill to remove their attractions.

25 May 2020

you, twenty years from now: setting your boundaries
leonard johnston

How do you live a safe life? For me, an important part is understanding and sticking to my boundaries.

22 March 2020

a normal teenager... just a pedophile
leonard johnston

For some teenagers, their sexuality brings loneliness. They're not sure who they can talk to. I couldn't talk to anyone.

8 March 2020

so you're a pedophile. now what?
leonard johnston

You can be a happy and morally good person, and stay true to yourself, even with these attractions.

9 October 2019

thread: why don't anti-cs talk about the age of consent?
bly

It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.

29 September 2019

past the dark facts
bly

A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field

22 September 2019

what do pedophiles fantasize about?
ethan edwards

Our opponents feel we deserve fierce condemnation even if we will never harm a child, and seek to score points because we fantasize about something most people find disgusting.

25 August 2019

surprise: what of two 13-year-olds having sex?
ethan edwards

3. of 3. I'm in favor of letting teleiophiles (ordinary folks) figure out the right age of consent. They don't have a vested interest in the outcome.

25 March 2019

thread: what doesn't harm kids?
bly

It's important to understand what really harms children so we aim to prevent the right things.

23 March 2019

thread: where do anti-contacts come from?
bly

Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify.

4 November 2018

the (not) reasons i'm anti-contact
brett daywalker

Instead of talking about what my reasons for being anti-contact are, I want to go into what my reasons for being anti contact aren't.

27 October 2018

thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser?
bly

Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?

7 September 2018

why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile)
bly

Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.

16 January 2018

the first time i didn't view child pornography
bly

Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

26 January 2016

review: lamb - the movie and book
ethan edwards

Although I believe the law is too blunt an instrument to properly intervene in non-sexual friendships between men and children, Lamb shows the emotional dangers.

28 August 2014

pedophilia and parenthood
ethan edwards

Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction

10 August 2014

eating the family dog
ethan edwards

A man is sexually attracted to young girls. He knows he will never act inappropriately with a real girl. But...

3 August 2014

what are celibate pedophiles like?
ethan edwards

The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people.

24 July 2014

what do pedophiles do?
ethan edwards

What is the best behaviour for pedophiles, given you don't like what we are?

18 July 2014

who is it ok for pedophiles to fantasize about?
ethan edwards

Given that we are for moral reasons totally unable to express our sexuality with children, our right to private sexual fantasy would seem if anything a bit more important than for ordinary folks.

17 July 2014

is it ok for pedophiles to fantasize?
ethan edwards

A pedophile who has never offended against a child and doesn't foresee a problem with offending ought to feel free to fantasize.

11 July 2014

civil libertarians must accept celibate pedophilia
ethan edwards

What evidence could anyone possibly marshal to conclude that all the members of a group — one defined by their thoughts and not their actions — are sex offenders if they are undetected by anyone?

7 July 2014

virtuous pedophiles
ethan edwards

An introduction to VirPed, started in 2012

6 July 2014

fundamental beliefs
ethan edwards

What do anti-contact pedophiles believe?