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all entries: jul 2014 to may 2025

 
 
 
  

2 May 2025

the rest of the list
bly

A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?

 
 
 
 
  

15 April 2025

nitro's final thoughts
nitro

I am a pedophile. I've made over 18,000 posts on the VirPed forum since 2015. I am dying.

 
 
 
 
  

18 February 2025

a year of therapy
carolus magnus

When I started, I wanted that magic pill. I wanted the lobotomy that would pull this malignant sector of my brain out.

 
 
 
 
  

21 January 2025

review: manticore
rakkaus keksit

Disgraced director's film brings an elevated aesthetic to a contemporary tragedy of dark desires, but does it get the situation right?

 
 
 
 
  

14 November 2024

a note on the costs of self-hatred
leonard johnston

Empathy is important, especially for those who are most hated - even by me.

 
 
 
 
  

27 April 2021

interview - the journey of leaving child pornography
leonard johnston

5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has.

 
 
 
 
  

11 February 2021

how do you end up viewing cp, anyway?
leonard johnston

4 of 6: I received a message from a man arrested for viewing CP. I asked him to tell me about it.

 
 
 
 
  

8 November 2020

images and offending: what do the data tell us?
leonard johnston

3 of 6: Does viewing CP encourage child abuse? What about artificial CP, like images, dolls, stories?

 
 
 
 
  

30 September 2020

is artificial child pornography a good outlet?
leonard johnston

2 of 6: Is artificial CP moral? Might it lead to more harm?

 
 
 
 
  

15 July 2020

thread: risk or risk factor?
bly

Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.

 
 
 
 
  

2 July 2020

thread: window shoppers and thieves
bly

People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.

 
 
 
 
  

12 April 2020

thread: the narrative of situational offenders
bly

Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?

 
 
 
 
  

4 January 2020

thread: are prevention programmes effective?
bly

Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?

 
 
 
 
  

28 August 2019

teen-teen attraction as opportunistic
ethan edwards

Suppose we start with the assumption that a person's fundamental sexual attraction is unchanging.

 
 
 
 
  

4 May 2019

thread: pedo-hunters
bly

Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?

 
 
 
 
  

27 October 2018

thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser?
bly

Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?

 
 
 
 
  

8 October 2018

the tragedy of child sex dolls and artificial cp
brett daywalker

No children have been harmed, and there is no evidence that the people viewing such media have or will harm children, but they have been made criminals anyway.

 
 
 
 
  

7 September 2018

why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile)
bly

Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.

 
 
 
 
  

30 July 2018

i needed to be caught: interview with jay
global prevention project

I needed to be caught. It was the jolt I needed in my life to sort it out. It's cost me almost everything, but my life is in such a good, positive direction now.

 
 
 
 
  

9 April 2018

sex offender, anti-contact pedophile
aydne

I kinda worked myself into this mindframe where, well if I'm gonna be a monster anyway... and that kinda set the backdrop for what ended up happening.

 
 
 
 
  

6 March 2017

the iq deficit of pedo abusers may not transfer to the celibate
ethan edwards

Research on pedophiles has suggested that we differ from ordinary peoplein a variety of non-flattering ways . The implications of being short or left-handed are obvious and not very serious for a person's self-concept. But IQ is more central to a person's self-worth, and the claimed deficit bothers...

 
 
 
 
  

2 March 2016

child sex abuse — recorded or not
ethan edwards

We care a lot more about what we see than what we don't.

 
 
 
 
  

5 October 2015

the non-offending pedophile
ender

Too many people still refuse to acknowledge the difference between pedophile and child molester. They judge people for feelings they didn't choose.

 
 
 
 
  

26 September 2014

how does cp viewing affect contact offending?
ethan edwards

The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of...

 
 
 
 
  

9 August 2014

those other pedophiles
ethan edwards

This blog is called "Celibate Pedophiles". The core message is that many pedophiles never engage in any illegal activity. But then there are the other pedophiles, the ones who are not celibate.

 
 
 
 
  

15 July 2014

keeping children safe
ethan edwards

I'm sure many in society would be very uncomfortable that I continue to engage with people who seem at risk of offending.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2 May 2025

the rest of the list
bly

A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?

 
 
 
15 April 2025

nitro's final thoughts
nitro

I am a pedophile. I've made over 18,000 posts on the VirPed forum since 2015. I am dying.

 
 
 
18 February 2025

a year of therapy
carolus magnus

When I started, I wanted that magic pill. I wanted the lobotomy that would pull this malignant sector of my brain out.

 
 
 
21 January 2025

review: manticore
rakkaus keksit

Disgraced director's film brings an elevated aesthetic to a contemporary tragedy of dark desires, but does it get the situation right?

 
 
 
14 November 2024

a note on the costs of self-hatred
leonard johnston

Empathy is important, especially for those who are most hated - even by me.

 
 
 
27 April 2021

interview - the journey of leaving child pornography
leonard johnston

5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has.

 
 
 
11 February 2021

how do you end up viewing cp, anyway?
leonard johnston

4 of 6: I received a message from a man arrested for viewing CP. I asked him to tell me about it.

 
 
 
8 November 2020

images and offending: what do the data tell us?
leonard johnston

3 of 6: Does viewing CP encourage child abuse? What about artificial CP, like images, dolls, stories?

 
 
 
30 September 2020

is artificial child pornography a good outlet?
leonard johnston

2 of 6: Is artificial CP moral? Might it lead to more harm?

 
 
 
15 July 2020

thread: risk or risk factor?
bly

Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.

 
 
 
2 July 2020

thread: window shoppers and thieves
bly

People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.

 
 
 
12 April 2020

thread: the narrative of situational offenders
bly

Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?

 
 
 
4 January 2020

thread: are prevention programmes effective?
bly

Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?

 
 
 
28 August 2019

teen-teen attraction as opportunistic
ethan edwards

Suppose we start with the assumption that a person's fundamental sexual attraction is unchanging.

 
 
 
4 May 2019

thread: pedo-hunters
bly

Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?

 
 
 
27 October 2018

thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser?
bly

Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?

 
 
 
8 October 2018

the tragedy of child sex dolls and artificial cp
brett daywalker

No children have been harmed, and there is no evidence that the people viewing such media have or will harm children, but they have been made criminals anyway.

 
 
 
7 September 2018

why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile)
bly

Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.

 
 
 
30 July 2018

i needed to be caught: interview with jay
global prevention project

I needed to be caught. It was the jolt I needed in my life to sort it out. It's cost me almost everything, but my life is in such a good, positive direction now.

 
 
 
9 April 2018

sex offender, anti-contact pedophile
aydne

I kinda worked myself into this mindframe where, well if I'm gonna be a monster anyway... and that kinda set the backdrop for what ended up happening.

 
 
 
6 March 2017

the iq deficit of pedo abusers may not transfer to the celibate
ethan edwards

Research on pedophiles has suggested that we differ from ordinary peoplein a variety of non-flattering ways . The implications of being short or left-handed are obvious and not very serious for a person's self-concept. But IQ is more central to a person's self-worth, and the claimed deficit bothers...

 
 
 
2 March 2016

child sex abuse — recorded or not
ethan edwards

We care a lot more about what we see than what we don't.

 
 
 
5 October 2015

the non-offending pedophile
ender

Too many people still refuse to acknowledge the difference between pedophile and child molester. They judge people for feelings they didn't choose.

 
 
 
26 September 2014

how does cp viewing affect contact offending?
ethan edwards

The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of...

 
 
 
9 August 2014

those other pedophiles
ethan edwards

This blog is called "Celibate Pedophiles". The core message is that many pedophiles never engage in any illegal activity. But then there are the other pedophiles, the ones who are not celibate.

 
 
 
15 July 2014

keeping children safe
ethan edwards

I'm sure many in society would be very uncomfortable that I continue to engage with people who seem at risk of offending.