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latest: aug 2014 to may 2025


			17 May 2025 a coming out guide for brave maps brandon goletzski People need to know that someone they love is a pedophile. If you're considering coming out to someone, here are my tips for doing it well

			9 May 2025 poem: adored benjamin harker A poem to a life love

			25 March 2025 life is not a decision: a pedophile parent charlie keyes I decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent

			4 October 2021 untreated: meet the spouses untreated team Two pedophiles and their long term partners discuss how their relationships began, how minor attraction was disclosed, and what happened next.

			27 April 2021 interview - the journey of leaving child pornography leonard johnston 5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has.

			13 March 2021 the pluses of denial of pedophilia ethan edwards There is a fairly large class of pedophiles who might do well to not even come out to themselves

			3 August 2020 my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2 ethan edwards I would estimate we heard from 180 women in this situation in the first six years of our existence.

			24 April 2020 discoveries on attraction and life partnerships leonard johnston The evolution of my sexuality and my search for a life partnership.

			1 March 2020 interview: claire, mother of a map global prevention project Candice and Claire talk about parents and partners of MAPs needing support and what can be done so that they can get the support they need in safe and compassionate way.

			23 August 2019 surprise: why no adult relationships? it's stigma, not lack of desire ethan edwards 2 of 3. Pedophilia is so highly stigmatized that it is a very rare dating partner who would learn of your attraction and continue dating you.

			2 August 2019 want; would like to; dream about — treacherous words ethan edwards The ambiguity in those words gets in the way of understanding.

			17 July 2019 turned into the best thing global prevention project Sara, partner of a MAP, interviewed about the process of finding out and adjusting.

			23 June 2019 thread: mutual coming out is hard bly It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.

			25 February 2019 still a mother's son elliott bateman What parents should know regarding MAP children, A MAP and his mother discuss his coming out process, his struggle with his attractions, and finding therapeutic support.

			23 February 2019 pedophiles watching youtube videos of young girls ethan edwards Science suggests maybe 1% of men are pedophiles. What do we actually expect them to do?

			12 September 2018 coming out to a world that hates pedophiles gary gibson Earlier this year I did an interview for an article in The Sun, not realizing the impact it would have on our lives.

			11 September 2018 married to a map bruce and gina As soon as she couldn't handle it, I was like, no, I'm done. Uh, this won't work, nice try, I'm gonna pull out, and I left.

			25 August 2018 eeeeek! my son is a pedophile! ethan edwards It is something a parent never expects. By now many parents are prepared for the idea that their son might reveal some day that he is gay. Lately some are perhaps setting aside a little bit of emotional reserve for the idea he'll reveal that he's actually a girl. But a pedophile? Never!

			14 June 2018 pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner ethan edwards This post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible).

			10 June 2018 my boyfriend's a pedophile. what should i do? ethan edwards How women partners of pedophiles experience their relationships

			7 May 2018 your mind changes you jakob I was a very confused teenager, and I actually went from being straight in my own mind to being gay. And, you know, then being a pedophile...

			24 March 2018 pedophiles working with kids — shocking? ethan edwards One recent criticism of Virtuous Pedophiles online was that we don't object to our members working with children without telling the responsible adults. Surely no organization that truly valued children's welfare would allow such a thing!

			29 March 2017 practical advice on coming out ethan edwards Pedophiles often feel a desire to come out — to have their sexuality known. Here are some practical considerations.

			21 September 2016 should pedophiles talk online? ethan edwards This post was inspired by a quote in the Virtuous Pedophiles support group:

			20 June 2016 privilege is not a helpful framework ethan edwards Perhaps some of my readers like the concept of 'privilege', as heard notably in 'white privilege' and 'male privilege'. In the interest of a productive dialog, let me start with some things I do believe.

			23 February 2016 pedophiles need to avoid more than sex ethan edwards If any adult voluntarily comes into a child's life, we can naturally hold them to a hig standard, and that is the minimum standard pedophiles should set for themselves.

			19 July 2015 the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender ethan edwards Help free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing.

			3 November 2014 childhood pictures of adult partners ethan edwards Most people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong...

			12 September 2014 coming out voluntarily ethan edwards One way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals.

			28 August 2014 pedophilia and parenthood ethan edwards Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction

17 May 2025

a coming out guide for brave maps
brandon goletzski

People need to know that someone they love is a pedophile. If you're considering coming out to someone, here are my tips for doing it well

9 May 2025

poem: adored
benjamin harker

A poem to a life love

25 March 2025

life is not a decision: a pedophile parent
charlie keyes

I decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent

4 October 2021

untreated: meet the spouses
untreated team

Two pedophiles and their long term partners discuss how their relationships began, how minor attraction was disclosed, and what happened next.

27 April 2021

interview - the journey of leaving child pornography
leonard johnston

5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has.

13 March 2021

the pluses of denial of pedophilia
ethan edwards

There is a fairly large class of pedophiles who might do well to not even come out to themselves

3 August 2020

my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2
ethan edwards

I would estimate we heard from 180 women in this situation in the first six years of our existence.

24 April 2020

discoveries on attraction and life partnerships
leonard johnston

The evolution of my sexuality and my search for a life partnership.

1 March 2020

interview: claire, mother of a map
global prevention project

Candice and Claire talk about parents and partners of MAPs needing support and what can be done so that they can get the support they need in safe and compassionate way.

23 August 2019

surprise: why no adult relationships? it's stigma, not lack of desire
ethan edwards

2 of 3. Pedophilia is so highly stigmatized that it is a very rare dating partner who would learn of your attraction and continue dating you.

2 August 2019

want; would like to; dream about — treacherous words
ethan edwards

The ambiguity in those words gets in the way of understanding.

17 July 2019

turned into the best thing
global prevention project

Sara, partner of a MAP, interviewed about the process of finding out and adjusting.

23 June 2019

thread: mutual coming out is hard
bly

It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.

25 February 2019

still a mother's son
elliott bateman

What parents should know regarding MAP children, A MAP and his mother discuss his coming out process, his struggle with his attractions, and finding therapeutic support.

23 February 2019

pedophiles watching youtube videos of young girls
ethan edwards

Science suggests maybe 1% of men are pedophiles. What do we actually expect them to do?

12 September 2018

coming out to a world that hates pedophiles
gary gibson

Earlier this year I did an interview for an article in The Sun, not realizing the impact it would have on our lives.

11 September 2018

married to a map
bruce and gina

As soon as she couldn't handle it, I was like, no, I'm done. Uh, this won't work, nice try, I'm gonna pull out, and I left.

25 August 2018

eeeeek! my son is a pedophile!
ethan edwards

It is something a parent never expects. By now many parents are prepared for the idea that their son might reveal some day that he is gay. Lately some are perhaps setting aside a little bit of emotional reserve for the idea he'll reveal that he's actually a girl. But a pedophile? Never!

14 June 2018

pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner
ethan edwards

This post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible).

10 June 2018

my boyfriend's a pedophile. what should i do?
ethan edwards

How women partners of pedophiles experience their relationships

7 May 2018

your mind changes you
jakob

I was a very confused teenager, and I actually went from being straight in my own mind to being gay. And, you know, then being a pedophile...

24 March 2018

pedophiles working with kids — shocking?
ethan edwards

One recent criticism of Virtuous Pedophiles online was that we don't object to our members working with children without telling the responsible adults. Surely no organization that truly valued children's welfare would allow such a thing!

29 March 2017

practical advice on coming out
ethan edwards

Pedophiles often feel a desire to come out — to have their sexuality known. Here are some practical considerations.

21 September 2016

should pedophiles talk online?
ethan edwards

This post was inspired by a quote in the Virtuous Pedophiles support group:

20 June 2016

privilege is not a helpful framework
ethan edwards

Perhaps some of my readers like the concept of 'privilege', as heard notably in 'white privilege' and 'male privilege'. In the interest of a productive dialog, let me start with some things I do believe.

23 February 2016

pedophiles need to avoid more than sex
ethan edwards

If any adult voluntarily comes into a child's life, we can naturally hold them to a hig standard, and that is the minimum standard pedophiles should set for themselves.

19 July 2015

the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender
ethan edwards

Help free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing.

3 November 2014

childhood pictures of adult partners
ethan edwards

Most people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong...

12 September 2014

coming out voluntarily
ethan edwards

One way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals.

28 August 2014

pedophilia and parenthood
ethan edwards

Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction

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