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| |  | | 25 March 2025
life is not a decision: a pedophile parent
charlie keyes I decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent |
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| |  | | 4 October 2021
untreated: meet the spouses
untreated team Two pedophiles and their long term partners discuss how their relationships began, how minor attraction was disclosed, and what happened next. |
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| |  | | 27 April 2021
interview - the journey of leaving child pornography
leonard johnston 5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has. |
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| |  | | 13 March 2021
the pluses of denial of pedophilia
ethan edwards There is a fairly large class of pedophiles who might do well to not even come out to themselves |
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| |  | | 3 August 2020
my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2
ethan edwards I would estimate we heard from 180 women in this situation in the first six years of our existence. |
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| |  | | 24 April 2020
discoveries on attraction and life partnerships
leonard johnston The evolution of my sexuality and my search for a life partnership. |
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| |  | | 1 March 2020
interview: claire, mother of a map
global prevention project Candice and Claire talk about parents and partners of MAPs needing support and what can be done so that they can get the support they need in safe and compassionate way. |
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| |  | | 23 August 2019
surprise: why no adult relationships? it's stigma, not lack of desire
ethan edwards 2 of 3. Pedophilia is so highly stigmatized that it is a very rare dating partner who would learn of your attraction and continue dating you. |
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| |  | | 2 August 2019
want; would like to; dream about — treacherous words
ethan edwards The ambiguity in those words gets in the way of understanding. |
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| |  | | 17 July 2019
turned into the best thing
global prevention project Sara, partner of a MAP, interviewed about the process of finding out and adjusting. |
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| |  | | 23 June 2019
thread: mutual coming out is hard
bly It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile. |
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| |  | | 25 February 2019
still a mother's son
elliott bateman What parents should know regarding MAP children, A MAP and his mother discuss his coming out process, his struggle with his attractions, and finding therapeutic support. |
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| |  | | 23 February 2019
pedophiles watching youtube videos of young girls
ethan edwards Science suggests maybe 1% of men are pedophiles. What do we actually expect them to do? |
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| |  | | 12 September 2018
coming out to a world that hates pedophiles
gary gibson Earlier this year I did an interview for an article in The Sun, not realizing the impact it would have on our lives. |
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| |  | | 11 September 2018
married to a map
bruce and gina As soon as she couldn't handle it, I was like, no, I'm done. Uh, this won't work, nice try, I'm gonna pull out, and I left. |
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| | | | 25 August 2018
eeeeek! my son is a pedophile!
ethan edwards It is something a parent never expects. By now many parents are prepared for the idea that their son might reveal some day that he is gay. Lately some are perhaps setting aside a little bit of emotional reserve for the idea he'll reveal that he's actually a girl. But a pedophile? Never! |
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| |  | | 14 June 2018
pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner
ethan edwards This post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible). |
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| | | | 10 June 2018
my boyfriend's a pedophile. what should i do?
ethan edwards How women partners of pedophiles experience their relationships |
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| |  | | 7 May 2018
your mind changes you
jakob I was a very confused teenager, and I actually went from being straight in my own mind to being gay. And, you know, then being a pedophile... |
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| |  | | 24 March 2018
pedophiles working with kids — shocking?
ethan edwards One recent criticism of Virtuous Pedophiles online was that we don't object to our members working with children without telling the responsible adults. Surely no organization that truly valued children's welfare would allow such a thing! |
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| |  | | 29 March 2017
practical advice on coming out
ethan edwards Pedophiles often feel a desire to come out — to have their sexuality known. Here are some practical considerations. |
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| | | | 21 September 2016
should pedophiles talk online?
ethan edwards This post was inspired by a quote in the Virtuous Pedophiles support group: |
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| | | | 20 June 2016
privilege is not a helpful framework
ethan edwards Perhaps some of my readers like the concept of 'privilege', as heard notably in 'white privilege' and 'male privilege'. In the interest of a productive dialog, let me start with some things I do believe. |
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| | | | 23 February 2016
pedophiles need to avoid more than sex
ethan edwards If any adult voluntarily comes into a child's life, we can naturally hold them to a hig standard, and that is the minimum standard pedophiles should set for themselves. |
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| | | | 19 July 2015
the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender
ethan edwards Help free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing. |
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| | | | 3 November 2014
childhood pictures of adult partners
ethan edwards Most people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong... |
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| | | | 12 September 2014
coming out voluntarily
ethan edwards One way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals. |
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| |  | | 28 August 2014
pedophilia and parenthood
ethan edwards Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction |
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| |  | | 26 August 2014
to tell or not to tell? pedophiles and marriage
ethan edwards Occasionally we get inquiries from girlfriends or wives who have just discovered their man is a pedophile. Should they stay together? |
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| | | | 18 August 2014
celibate pedophiles spending time with children
ethan edwards Pedophiles live in the wide world, and children live in the wide world, and they're bound to be in the same place sometimes. |
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25 March 2025
life is not a decision: a pedophile parent
charlie keyesI decided, with every factor in play, that above all, I was going to be a damned good parent |
|
4 October 2021
untreated: meet the spouses
untreated teamTwo pedophiles and their long term partners discuss how their relationships began, how minor attraction was disclosed, and what happened next. |
|
27 April 2021
interview - the journey of leaving child pornography
leonard johnston5 of 6: Anywhere that CP is discussed, no one talks about how they stopped viewing it. Now someone has. |
|
13 March 2021
the pluses of denial of pedophilia
ethan edwardsThere is a fairly large class of pedophiles who might do well to not even come out to themselves |
|
3 August 2020
my boyfriend's a pedophile, version 2
ethan edwardsI would estimate we heard from 180 women in this situation in the first six years of our existence. |
|
24 April 2020
discoveries on attraction and life partnerships
leonard johnstonThe evolution of my sexuality and my search for a life partnership. |
|
1 March 2020
interview: claire, mother of a map
global prevention projectCandice and Claire talk about parents and partners of MAPs needing support and what can be done so that they can get the support they need in safe and compassionate way. |
|
23 August 2019
surprise: why no adult relationships? it's stigma, not lack of desire
ethan edwards2 of 3. Pedophilia is so highly stigmatized that it is a very rare dating partner who would learn of your attraction and continue dating you. |
|
2 August 2019
want; would like to; dream about — treacherous words
ethan edwardsThe ambiguity in those words gets in the way of understanding. |
|
17 July 2019
turned into the best thing
global prevention projectSara, partner of a MAP, interviewed about the process of finding out and adjusting. |
|
23 June 2019
thread: mutual coming out is hard
blyIt's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile. |
|
25 February 2019
still a mother's son
elliott batemanWhat parents should know regarding MAP children, A MAP and his mother discuss his coming out process, his struggle with his attractions, and finding therapeutic support. |
|
23 February 2019
pedophiles watching youtube videos of young girls
ethan edwardsScience suggests maybe 1% of men are pedophiles. What do we actually expect them to do? |
|
12 September 2018
coming out to a world that hates pedophiles
gary gibsonEarlier this year I did an interview for an article in The Sun, not realizing the impact it would have on our lives. |
|
11 September 2018
married to a map
bruce and ginaAs soon as she couldn't handle it, I was like, no, I'm done. Uh, this won't work, nice try, I'm gonna pull out, and I left. |
|
25 August 2018
eeeeek! my son is a pedophile!
ethan edwardsIt is something a parent never expects. By now many parents are prepared for the idea that their son might reveal some day that he is gay. Lately some are perhaps setting aside a little bit of emotional reserve for the idea he'll reveal that he's actually a girl. But a pedophile? Never! |
|
14 June 2018
pedophilia as a minor secret from your partner
ethan edwardsThis post is directed at pedophiles who have some attraction to adults and would like to have a relationship with an adult. (I'll focus on men attracted to women, but all other gender combinations are also possible). |
|
10 June 2018
my boyfriend's a pedophile. what should i do?
ethan edwardsHow women partners of pedophiles experience their relationships |
|
7 May 2018
your mind changes you
jakobI was a very confused teenager, and I actually went from being straight in my own mind to being gay. And, you know, then being a pedophile... |
|
24 March 2018
pedophiles working with kids — shocking?
ethan edwardsOne recent criticism of Virtuous Pedophiles online was that we don't object to our members working with children without telling the responsible adults. Surely no organization that truly valued children's welfare would allow such a thing! |
|
29 March 2017
practical advice on coming out
ethan edwardsPedophiles often feel a desire to come out — to have their sexuality known. Here are some practical considerations. |
|
21 September 2016
should pedophiles talk online?
ethan edwardsThis post was inspired by a quote in the Virtuous Pedophiles support group: |
|
20 June 2016
privilege is not a helpful framework
ethan edwardsPerhaps some of my readers like the concept of 'privilege', as heard notably in 'white privilege' and 'male privilege'. In the interest of a productive dialog, let me start with some things I do believe. |
|
23 February 2016
pedophiles need to avoid more than sex
ethan edwardsIf any adult voluntarily comes into a child's life, we can naturally hold them to a hig standard, and that is the minimum standard pedophiles should set for themselves. |
|
19 July 2015
the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender
ethan edwardsHelp free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing. |
|
3 November 2014
childhood pictures of adult partners
ethan edwardsMost people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong... |
|
12 September 2014
coming out voluntarily
ethan edwardsOne way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals. |
|
28 August 2014
pedophilia and parenthood
ethan edwardsShould pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction |
|
26 August 2014
to tell or not to tell? pedophiles and marriage
ethan edwardsOccasionally we get inquiries from girlfriends or wives who have just discovered their man is a pedophile. Should they stay together? |
|
18 August 2014
celibate pedophiles spending time with children
ethan edwardsPedophiles live in the wide world, and children live in the wide world, and they're bound to be in the same place sometimes. |
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